As a profession, life coaches are in a role where leadership is an absolute must. From the beginning of an interaction between a coach and mentee, it is the responsibility of every coach to lead their client to help them achieve their goals.
In many situations, life coaches don’t have any more wisdom or knowledge about a given subject than the client themselves. What they do have is an understanding of leadership that can be emulated in order to achieve goals.
Yet, even among life coaches there are specific skills and traits that are rare despite being imperative for learning and growth. Here are 4 of the most rare leadership skills that you can implement today to become a better leader:
- Vulnerability – most life coaches (most people in fact) feel as though they need to have a certain aura or characterization about themselves. They often feel as though their reputation makes a big difference and being seen as weak or vulnerable is not ever a good thing to do. While this is very conventional thinking, it is actually not the right way to approach things.
Being vulnerable with the right intentions is the best way to build trust, free oneself from guilt or shame, and make huge changes in life. As a life coach, if you want to be vulnerable with your clients, just start telling them things that are hard to say. Tell them aspects of your life you may not be proud of or still hurt to talk about. These things may feel edgy to you, but in that vulnerability you will create a closer connection with people who come to you for help.
- Curiosity – if you are a life coach who thinks you have all the answers, it makes it very difficult to listen to pleas for help. There are many life coaches who don’t exhibit a true sense of curiosity with their clients, which prevents them from leading. With genuine curiosity, it’s easy for a life coach to ask questions, learn, and even allow the client to come up with answers for themselves. By tapping into curiosity, a coach can lead a customer to the answer they already have within themselves.
- Objectivity – without maintaining some type of objectivity, it is nearly impossible for a coach to lead a client. Being objective means being able to see exactly where the person is mentally and emotionally without trying to change or judge anything. By seeing things in a more objective light, it is possible to have far more empathy for others. This is so uncommon because everyone has their life story, biases, and psychological traumas that prevent objective thought.
- Surrender – life coaches, and the types of personalities that go into said profession, are often all about getting things done in a very specific and disciplined way. Many ascribe to theories that suggest working hard is the only way to overcome obstacles and there is nothing that stops a determined man or woman. The truth is, sometimes being a real leader is surrendering to an outcome that may not be fully in your control.
There are always things outside of our control that we must take in stride. If you are too concerned with the outcome, it will create stress and tension that isn’t indicative of a great leader.